Take my Hand and draw me close,
Let’s go on an adventure through far and ancient lands,
We’ll go to the peak of Kilimanjaro, marvelling at how peaceful the World is from above,
We’ll race each other through the Meadow, the fragrance transporting us across time and space, melting reality around us,
We’ll swim in the Indian Ocean and bask in the sunlight, collecting Seashells and building Castles,
We’ll drive through cities, eating spicy foods and getting drunk on Wine and Happiness,
Dancing to a tune heard by our ears only,
We will get to see the lost city of Heracleion and the hanging gardens of Babylon,
After all, “time is but a man made convention” I say, and we have a box full of it.
We’ll tuck the memories made, sweet and sour, in a corner of our hearts,
Lasting a lifetime and more.
Two hears destined to be together for eternity,
Finding each other over and over again,
Can you not hear it calling out?
The sound of destiny yearning for an answer,
The Echo of our love from lifetime past.
The year so far has been a fascinating one. Better by far than the previous year, and filled with lessons. Including those I enjoyed learning and others that were painful to experience.
One of such lessons. Which looking back now wish I didn’t have to experience to learn was this “you cannot force someone to love you back”.
A few years ago, I discovered that I had wrongly assumed for a long time that love was something that could be chased and earned. I would hang around guys I had a crush on, spend a long time talking on the phone with them, buy gifts for them, and do so much more, With hopes that eventually, they’ll begin to see me in a different light; the same way I regarded them. As some would have guessed by now, it didn’t end up all too well for me. The experience left me with scares, painful memories, and a heart unwilling to fall in love again. So when my friends and those around me talked about how love was a wonderful experience, filled with tender moments and joyful memories, I wondered what they were talking about as my experiences had been totally different.
Upon further deliberation on the matter, I realized that the idea I had about love had been totally wrong. I believed that love could be earned, bought or coerced from someone. So far, I had been trying to earn the love of these guys. I had tried to buy their love and conform to an image that was pleasing to their sight, In hopes that they’ll begin to feel what I felt for them.
Donald Miller said, “love cannot be earned, it can only be given. And it can only be exchanged by people who are completely true to each other”.
To love someone is a Choice, and not to love is also a choice, a valid one at that. Taking a cue from God, we see that he loved us while we were yet sinners and he sent his Son, Jesus christ to die on the cross. We didn’t have to do anything to qualify to receive this love. It is open to everyone. Therefore, if our father in heaven can love us this way, who are we as his children and humans to try and buy, force, or coerce someone to love us in return? The most we can do is to place ourselves in a position that’ll get us to be noticed by the other party. Other than that, the choice to love give us his/her love in return is a personal one.
We deserve a love that’s freely given. Love that is not chased, coerced or given with conditions attached to it. You and I deserve to be loved wholly,fully, with our imperfections (with room for growth). Without any fear of rejection and judgment.
In conclusion, though this lesson was a hard one to learn, I’m glad I had the opportunity to do so. I’ll be waiting patiently and gladly for this great gift (hopefully, it’ll be soon enough).
We’ve all heard someone say, or have once said it ourselves “I wish I could go to a new place and start a fresh”. The idea of the possibility of a fresh start gives people a sense of relief. It makes us hold on to the hope that past wrongs can be erased, painful memories forgotten, and our old selves can be exchanged for something new.
New Beginnings
In other words, being offered a blank slate, to start a fresh. I’ve been a victim of this too; The desire for a blank slate; To go to a new place where no one knows me, where I’m free from the shackles and chains of projected expectations from family and friends. I see myself putting on a new personality, free to have crazy fun and generally have a great time.
The dictionary defines satisfaction as“the fulfillment or gratification of a desire, need, or appetite.” It defines contentment as “satisfied with things as they are.” It all comes down to Contentment and Satisfaction. Similar words but different too. With dissatisfaction, there’s this great need to accumulate more. More money, more houses, more jobs, more titles attached to our names, etcetera. Unhappy with our lot. With contentment, we’re OK with what we’ve been offered in life. Choosing happiness irrespective of Our circumstances
I liken it to a child who was given a gift of a bicycle on his birthday but wasn’t happy with what he had as he compared his bicycle to a play station that was given to a class mate some few months back.
The secret is to be content with what we have but not satisfied with where we are in life. To be satisfied with where you are in life is to stop setting goals, and dreaming, it’s to not want to grow. Maybe if we were all content, we wouldn’t wish for a fresh slate.
Why don’t you make the changes you’ve always wanted to make in your life today? Why don’t you pick up that dream and pin in to your to-do list today, tomorrow or this year? You don’t have to wait for the perfect time or opportunity. If not, that dream will always be a dream, and nothing more. Starting a blog was one of those dreams. I always had excuses for why I hadn’t started one yet- time, content, gadgets, etc. I’m glad I decided to pin it to my to-do list today for this year. Thank you for starting this journey with me. I hope we make awesome memories and accomplish great things together .
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